Lately I’ve been aware of how I form perceptions of others, and sometimes in the form of judgments. I meet new people, and I start to compare them to myself or others. It grieves my heart when I do realize I’m doing this, and I truly want to see these people as God sees them.
Matthew writes, “3Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? 4 How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? 5 You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.” – Matthew 7:3-5
One thing I’ve been particularly convicted about lately is how the thing that annoys me the most about someone may be because of a sin hidden in me. For example, if I’m annoyed with someone because I think they might be lazy, it may be because I’m too controlling, or I’m too focused on my to-do list to stop and rely on God to get everything done. Another example might be that I’m annoyed with the person in front of me driving slowly, when really it’s because I was lazy that morning, and didn’t get out of bed!
Jesus clearly tells us here that we need to deal with our own sin, and then if it’s still appropriate help our brother who might be struggling (which will hopefully result in us being sensitive, and lovingly approaching them).
Who is the most frustrating person in your life right now? What is it about them that drives you crazy? How might this relate to a sign you might be having? Spend some time processing through that, and then pray and repent if needed.
Spend the rest of the time praying for this person, and for you to love them well. Pray that God might show you how to do this well.